Finding a girlfriend can be a scary prospect, trust me I know this. It took me years before I had the courage to even open my mouth in front of a girl I liked.
And the thing that set it off for me, that really worsened the situation, was that girls can detect fear in a guy a mile off.
They could sense I was never feeling comfortable. This was bad for me because girls like confidence in a guy. If I were never ever going to get over my fear, nothing was ever going to go well for me women-wise.
In truth, it does usually take some work, but armed with a little insider information, you can approach the dating game with confidence and even have some fun along the way. So, what are the secrets of the guys who always get the girls?
Well, you’ve come to the right place. Read on to find out the top ten tips to get a girlfriend – in the quickest and easiest way possible.
Tip 1: Don’t try too hard
If you feel desperate for a girlfriend, this is bound to be obvious, either with your body language or from the manner with which you approach girls. Putting women on a pedestal – using excessive flattery, constantly staring or smiling at a girl or worse still, stalking her – is simply going to put her right off. Play it cool and let your natural personality shine and she’s far more likely to be drawn to you.
Tip 2: Be the one who is in control
Tell yourself that you are the one doing the choosing, not the one waiting to be chosen. Girls want boyfriends just as much as you want a girlfriend. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to take control when meeting girls. That’s not to say you should be arrogant; it’s more about having a sense of your own worth.
Tip 3: Be a ‘social butterfly’
Make lots and lots of friends – especially female ones, if you can. The more people you know, the more opportunities there will be to meet even more people – and more potential girlfriends. Making friends does require effort; you’ll need to be the one making lots of calls and emails and even the one who arranges some evenings out. The more sociable you appear, the more likely it is that you’ll get noticed, too.
Tip 4: Use the ‘scattergun’ approach
Put quite simply, the more avenues you explore, the greater your chances of success. Find a new interest. Maybe join a local sports team or club. Sign up for internet dating and speed dating events. And there’s always social networking. The more girls you get to meet, the more options you are giving yourself.
Tip 5: Recognize the type of girl you want
This can sometimes be hard, particularly if you haven’t had many opportunities to mix with female company. However, if you get to connect with some girls and know which characteristics you do and don’t find attractive, then you’ll waste less time focusing on girls who are completely wrong for you.
Tip 6: Don’t rush it
OK, so this is supposed to be about getting a girlfriend fast……however, a common problem for single men (and indeed women) is that they are in way too much of a rush to find ‘the one’ because they are fed up with the dating game. They can then end up having a ‘quick-fix’ affair, which can lead to disappointment – and often heartache – on both sides.
Tip 7: Take good care of yourself
Your clothes and personal hygiene say a lot about who you are. Always make an effort to look good. Work out at the gym a little, wear clean and freshly pressed clothes and make sure you smell nice. It may sound like an obvious one, but it’s more than just being about appearances. A poor appearance can be a subconscious signal that you have low self-esteem; and no woman wants a man who lacks that inner confidence and drive.
Tip 8: Have a good sense of humor
Girls love to be around guys who are good fun. However, if you’re not naturally funny, don’t force it and end up telling bad jokes. Dry observation and a quick wit is far more appealing than a corny punchline.
Tip 9: Be confident and be yourself
Confidence is probably the single most important trait when it comes to attracting women. It is not about showing off or acting up; true confidence comes from within. Know who you are and what you want, and you will instantly make yourself more attractive to girls.
Tip 10: Read up on how you can become an ‘alpha male’
Alpha males are the ones who repeatedly get the girls. There are some simple techniques you can learn to help you become a naturally charismatic, confident and attractive individual. This is partly done through looking at your behaviors and mindset but also a lot of it comes down to body language. There are plenty of guides out there for you to read – and the advice they give really does work!
And the thing that set it off for me, that really worsened the situation, was that girls can detect fear in a guy a mile off.
They could sense I was never feeling comfortable. This was bad for me because girls like confidence in a guy. If I were never ever going to get over my fear, nothing was ever going to go well for me women-wise.
In truth, it does usually take some work, but armed with a little insider information, you can approach the dating game with confidence and even have some fun along the way. So, what are the secrets of the guys who always get the girls?
Well, you’ve come to the right place. Read on to find out the top ten tips to get a girlfriend – in the quickest and easiest way possible.
Tip 1: Don’t try too hard
If you feel desperate for a girlfriend, this is bound to be obvious, either with your body language or from the manner with which you approach girls. Putting women on a pedestal – using excessive flattery, constantly staring or smiling at a girl or worse still, stalking her – is simply going to put her right off. Play it cool and let your natural personality shine and she’s far more likely to be drawn to you.
Tip 2: Be the one who is in control
Tell yourself that you are the one doing the choosing, not the one waiting to be chosen. Girls want boyfriends just as much as you want a girlfriend. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to take control when meeting girls. That’s not to say you should be arrogant; it’s more about having a sense of your own worth.
Tip 3: Be a ‘social butterfly’
Make lots and lots of friends – especially female ones, if you can. The more people you know, the more opportunities there will be to meet even more people – and more potential girlfriends. Making friends does require effort; you’ll need to be the one making lots of calls and emails and even the one who arranges some evenings out. The more sociable you appear, the more likely it is that you’ll get noticed, too.
Tip 4: Use the ‘scattergun’ approach
Put quite simply, the more avenues you explore, the greater your chances of success. Find a new interest. Maybe join a local sports team or club. Sign up for internet dating and speed dating events. And there’s always social networking. The more girls you get to meet, the more options you are giving yourself.
Tip 5: Recognize the type of girl you want
This can sometimes be hard, particularly if you haven’t had many opportunities to mix with female company. However, if you get to connect with some girls and know which characteristics you do and don’t find attractive, then you’ll waste less time focusing on girls who are completely wrong for you.
Tip 6: Don’t rush it
OK, so this is supposed to be about getting a girlfriend fast……however, a common problem for single men (and indeed women) is that they are in way too much of a rush to find ‘the one’ because they are fed up with the dating game. They can then end up having a ‘quick-fix’ affair, which can lead to disappointment – and often heartache – on both sides.
Tip 7: Take good care of yourself
Your clothes and personal hygiene say a lot about who you are. Always make an effort to look good. Work out at the gym a little, wear clean and freshly pressed clothes and make sure you smell nice. It may sound like an obvious one, but it’s more than just being about appearances. A poor appearance can be a subconscious signal that you have low self-esteem; and no woman wants a man who lacks that inner confidence and drive.
Tip 8: Have a good sense of humor
Girls love to be around guys who are good fun. However, if you’re not naturally funny, don’t force it and end up telling bad jokes. Dry observation and a quick wit is far more appealing than a corny punchline.
Tip 9: Be confident and be yourself
Confidence is probably the single most important trait when it comes to attracting women. It is not about showing off or acting up; true confidence comes from within. Know who you are and what you want, and you will instantly make yourself more attractive to girls.
Tip 10: Read up on how you can become an ‘alpha male’
Alpha males are the ones who repeatedly get the girls. There are some simple techniques you can learn to help you become a naturally charismatic, confident and attractive individual. This is partly done through looking at your behaviors and mindset but also a lot of it comes down to body language. There are plenty of guides out there for you to read – and the advice they give really does work!
